Protecting Your Relationships: Dealing with Diabetes
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Protecting Your Relationships: Dealing with Diabetes

October 31, 2019

Hello! Today’s blog is going to be on
diabetes and relationships. Having a plan is very important. A lot of
arguments happen because there is not a plan in place to prevent those arguments from
happening. When I talk about a plan it’s basically a plan of action. Both
parties know exactly what’s going to happen. I like to think of these plans as
everyday routines that you do within your relationship. Just like going to a
restaurant. When you go to a restaurant and if there’s a sign that says please wait to be
seated. you wait to be seated and if both parties are on board with the plan the
hostess will come up and then take you to your seat and seat you. Which
your expectations are that a waitress is going to come over and someone’s going to get you water and so on and so on. What ends up happening is in relationships. We
don’t think about planning what happens for a low blood sugar or high blood
sugar. Low blood sugars maybe more talked about but high blood Sugars are a big
one. So, what are you going to do when your blood sugars are high? What your
partner going to do when they’re high? Having that discussed ahead of time is
so important. Because we can’t expect for significant other to be able to read our
mind and know what support we want and a lot of times we haven’t even thought
about it. So, it’s important that we really think about what support we want
and how we want the person we’re with to handle it Each plan needs to be personalized for
the couple. If you’re living with diabetes and your blood sugar goes high your
expectations and your partner’s expectations need to be the same. So, if
you have high blood sugar you might say to your significant other, “Hey! My blood
Sugars high.” and they might go, “okay is there anything I can do for you?” and your
significant other knows that if you say no that they need to then move on and
continue with what they’re doing. They also know that if they have something
important to talk to you about that they might need to wait until your blood
Sugar’s returned to normal and you’re in a good space. You always want to
make sure that your partner is ready to hear you, ready to listen. to you and has
the time for you. While your blood sugar is high part of your plan might be to do
something simple. Some simple tasks that you’ve been putting off, like shredding
paper. So, you feel good that you’ve done something during this time. It doesn’t
take too much cognitive ability, but you still accomplish something. Which makes
you feel good. Then you go ask your partner and you tell them that you’re
back to normal and if they need to talk that you’re around and available. If
it’s not a good time you may want to have plans to speak at some designated
time like every Saturday or Sunday at a time of the day. So, that way if something
doesn’t get addressed during the week you know exactly what to talk about.
These plans really do need to be personalized and I work with a lot of
different couples and we create a lot of different plans. It’s really important
that both people are in the same page, so that way you can address the high blood
sugar or low blood sugar as well as the relationship needs to avoid needless
arguments. If you need help with this area and are struggling please reach out
give me a call. My name is Eliot LeBow. I am a diabetes focused psychotherapist.
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