I’m At A Healthy Weight, Can I Still Have An Eating Disorder? Facebook Friday! #katifaq
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I’m At A Healthy Weight, Can I Still Have An Eating Disorder? Facebook Friday! #katifaq

August 22, 2019

– It’s finally Friday! And you guys know what that means — I’m on Facebook, and for any of you who did your hashtag Kati FAQ or the top of the message
that you sent me it said, “Hey Kati, FAQ,” or “Kati,
this is my question,” or whatever, I found ’em! And I’m gonna answer five
of your questions today, so I’m gonna get crackin’
because I don’t want it to be like 20 minutes long,
and then you guys are like, “Kati, this is terrible, oh my god.” But if you hear little
tritty-trotty nails, that’s ’cause I’m
dog-sitting. Can you see her? Can you see her? Oh, that way. There she is. Say “hi” Salona, say hi! She’s like, “I’m shy, I only bark when I think that there
are birds outside, okay?” So anyway. And we’re gonna for a walk. That’s why I’m in my outdoor gear, so I can maybe get some suntan action. Okay, so — Oh, and stay
tuned until the end because I had a great suggestion
from one of my followers on Facebook, and she messaged
me saying, “Hey Kati, I think it’d be a great idea
if at the end of every video for your Q and A’s you
gave us a journal topic, that way I have something
to journal about, and it focuses something positive and it gets me thinking, and she
really likes that kinda thing, and I think it’s an amazing idea. So stay tuned ’til the end for
the journal topic of the day! And let me know — give it a
like if you like that idea, and if you want me to do more. I have tons of journal topics,
I’m sure many of you — if any of you have ever been in therapy, you know that we always
give you different things and I have this big book,
like one hundred and something journal topics, so I’ve got plenty. Okay, so, without further
ado, question number one: What would you do — me —
what would I do if I have a son or daughter who
had an eating disorder? I’d get them help. The first
thing I’d do is get them into therapy, and I’d
probably get them into — First I’d let them see their
primary care physician. Then I’d get them a
therapist and a dietician. And I would take them every week, and we would just make it work. If that wasn’t enough, we’d
consider higher levels of care. But I’d probably do the most
to make sure I’m listening to my child, but also not
pushing, because the last thing I want to do is be so pushy
that they feel like they can’t tell me anything, and they’ll
feel bad if they slip up. I’d also probably wanna
do some family therapy, so that we’d have a safe place, so that if they want to tell me something that’s hard to tell me, then they would have a place to do that. But that was a really good question. It’s silly but I hadn’t ever
really thought about that. So, there’s my answer! Now, question number two,
and this is a good one, and I have a lot of
experience with this — dealing with roommates. The
question, really, was around how do I approach them about
being loud late at night, or not taking care of my stuff,
or not respecting my space. And this is something that
I used to struggle with, because I don’t really like conflict, and some people you never know
how they’re gonna respond, so you want to come off nice enough that they don’t fight you,
but you still wanna get your point across — it’s
just really hard, right? So, they way that I usually do it is when we’re watching TV, or when we’re not doing anything
— we’re not in a hurry, or it’s not in the moment
when I’m really frustrated, like when they just
broke that item of mine, or they had somebody who
stayed at the house and they didn’t ask me if
they could, or whatever, that’s when I would bring
it up with my roommates, and I’d always say something like — I’m just gonna make up a name — “Hey Olivia –” cause I’ve
never had an Olivia roommate, “Hey Olivia, there’s something
I want to talk to you about,” I think the way we phrase
it is really important, so the way that I phrase
it about this particular instance where she’s saying they’re being really loud at night
and she’s worried about school and them keeping her up
and not being able to study, or whatever, I would say,
“Do you mind if we try to keep it down, like, after 11?” Pick a time that’s good
for you — for me, it’d be like, 11, cause 10 is
probably when I’m maybe going to bed. And I’d just
say, “Do you mind keeping it down a little bit? ‘Cause
I’ve just been having a hard time sleeping, and
last night really kept me up.” That’s not that mean, right?
We’re not really being rude. We’re not attacking her. We’re
just telling her how we felt, and what happened, and what
our struggle was because of it, and then what we need, and
then hopefully, because we’ve been honest, we’ve been clear, we haven’t been like, “You’re such a jerk! You kept me up and (grumbles).” They’ll be like, “Oh, I’m
sorry, I didn’t realize!” That’s probably the response you’ll get, “Oh, I’m sorry, I didn’t realize, we’ll make sure to keep it down, or you let us know if
it’s too loud next time,” or whatever your agreement is. And I would leave the
conversation by saying, “Is there a way that if you get too loud, you’d like me to let you know?” I’d even say, “I don’t
want to fight about it, I really like living with
you, and I really enjoy your company,” and that sort of thing. And leave with an agreement,
so next time something does happen, you have a protocol, or a way that you’re gonna talk about it. Wow, it is noisy! There’s
a truck goin’ on outside. I have all the windows open ’cause it is really hot in Los Angeles today. Okay, next question! Number three. Is stress eating considered
an eating disorder? Now this is a great question, and the simple, short answer is no. And the reason being is
that stress eating usually happens for a short period
of time, and it stops. There’s no real reason
behind it except for the stress of a test, or maybe someone passed away in our life, or we’re going through a
breakup or a divorce, or… any kind of thing — we’re moving, whatever the major stressor is. When that stressor goes away, we don’t end up eating too much, or not eating, or whatever the
issue is associated with it. But it can turn into an eating disorder if it doesn’t go away
and if our life stress that’s constant, — we all have some level of stress, right? — is
enough to prompt us to either binge, or restrict, whatever it is, at that point, then it
would’ve turned into an eating disorder, okay,
does that make sense? You can check out my other
videos, my older videos where I’m really awkward
— standing all awkward — about anorexia, bulimia,
and what all of those are and what the diagnostic criteria is — so, you can search on
my channel for those. Now, number four is:
If you are in a healthy weight range, can you still
have an eating disorder? Yes, you can, and many of you do. Most of my clients — about half actually, about half of my clients are
in a healthy weight range and still have an eating disorder — some are overweight and still
have an eating disorder, and some are underweight
and have an eating disorder. Eating disorders come in all
shapes and sizes, genders, everything — it doesn’t discriminate. I know that your eating disorder tells you that you’re not sick because
you’re not thin enough, or whatever — it’s all
lies, you can definitely have an eating disorder. And the final question — number five: What are some of the ways you can specialize the eating disorders? I hear this a lot because
a lot of people wanna know how I came to be what I am, I guess, and it really depends on
what you want to do — if you want to be a therapist, then you just go through all the protocol, and all of the schooling
to become a therapist, you don’t have to specialize yet — there’s nothing you can do in school to specialize in eating disorders. Once you’re in graduate school and you start to take an internship, or what at the time, I think you call… oh jeez, I’m gonna
forget, but it’s not even an internship ’cause you’re
not even an intern yet, it’s like… practicum,
that’s what we called it. Your practicum courses,
when you get into that that’s when you can decide
where you wanna work. Now, that being said, sometimes
we don’t have an option to work in an eating disorder clinic, and they don’t take people
who aren’t licensed, or even licensed interns, so… But that’s where you can start to do it. The more research you do
— you can actually become an accredited eating
disorder specialist — I think it’s like a CSC, or a… You can Google that, though, but you can do that sorta thing, too, where your CEUs, your Continuing Education
Units that we have to have every year to continue keeping our license can be focused
on eating disorders. But, I would caution all of you, if you’re wanting to become
an eating disorder therapist, or an eating disorder dietician, you don’t only do training
in eating disorders, because working in a hospital and seeing schizophrenia in real life and seeing bipolar disorder in real life, and seeing people decompensate and end up in the hospital
and meeting them in the ER, and all of that… is invaluable to you as a therapist, and to how you can treat
clients in general, because like we know, and
like I always talk about in my videos — everybody is different, people can have an eating disorder, they can also be schizophrenic, or schizoaffective, or bipolar, or borderline, and we
need to have experience in all of those realms. So what I would urge you to do is know what you wanna do, you wanna specialize, that’s great that you already know that, and then take your internships
and your practicums as a chance for you to learn more about psychology as a whole, and get a feel for it all, because at that point, then we
actually know what we want to specialize in, and we’ll
have a vaster body of knowledge that we’re pulling from as
we treat our patients, okay? Now, the journal topic! Oh — people are outside,
this is kinda awkward. The journal topic of the day! What is one thing that you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t
and what is stopping you from doing it right now? I think that this is kinda great, and I’m actually excited to do it myself, because it’s fun to think about
those things you wanna do, and I’m sure, I mean I have
a list of like, a gazillion things I wanna do —
places I wanna travel to, people I’d love to meet, goals I have for healthy
mind, healthy body. There’s tons of things that we wanna do. So spend some time
thinking about the things that you wanna do, and thinking about what we can do to make it happen, okay? Have a wonderful week
— it’s finally Friday! So I am filming today and tomorrow and I know, I know what you guys want, your videos are coming,
don’t you fret, okay? I remember, I write them down, and my video will be coming out on Monday. I hope y’all have a wonderful weekend, I love you all, and I
will see you soon. Bye!

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  1. Thank you for the journal topic! I've been interested in journaling lately, but I've had a hard time writing anything positive. I think having a prompt like this will really help 🙂

  2. Kati gave me the same advice in person about being an eating disorder therapist and internships. Please listen to her advice. You will be a better therapist if you open yourself up to all the experiences that grad school can offer you.

  3. I wish more people knew that you can be at a healthy weight and still have an eating disorder. I have an ED. I use to be really skinny apparently, but at hospital i had to gain and now i am apparently healthy weight. I sometimes question whether i still have an ED cause so many say you can't any more, but i still have all the same thoughts and a lot of the same behaviours…it is harder to ask for help now though cause no one will think i am sick enough. Anyway love the journal idea!

  4. DEFINITELY continue the journal topic idea, I've kinda stopped because I've ran out of things to do and I do tend to rely on YouTube videos to come up with them, so if nothing jumps out I struggle! I know I should be doing it though, even when I'm well because then it might stop things from going downhill 🙂

  5. Journal topics! YES! I've been unable to write and this is absolutely perfect!! 🙂 Hope you have a fantastic weekend!

  6. Yay! Journal topics! Btw I think my favorite part of Fridays is coming to these Q&As and hearing that little Friday song. lol It's adorable!

  7. Seems like I'm not the only one who is excited about journal topics… I've had such a hard time getting my thoughts out lately and having difficulty sharing things. I'm really looking forward to this. Thank you, Kati and to whoever suggested it. <3

  8. Thank you so much for speaking about stress & ED, and how it can eventually become a real ED… I left you a message on the "journal" of your website about "odd ED" because I was always overly anxious in my life in general, but also circumstances made that people around me have ALWAYS made fun about me being to thin… yes, it is weird, because I eat relatively properly, I don't purge or restrict. But now I'm overly anxious around food and I'm obsessed w/ gaining weight at the same time…

  9. Thank you SO MUCH for the journal topics!!! I don't have a therapist or anything so it will be so great to have little assignments to push me along. And it will force me to actually start journaling (you seem to be in love with it so I guess it's pretty important 🙂 Thank you for all of your videos, they play a huge part in my recovery <3

  10. Hi, Kati! Im just asking because I'm curious. How's the law regarding being diagnozed with an eating disorder in the US? I'm from Norway and when I had an BMI on 18,7 I was to heavy to get the diagnosis (if I remember it right). And if I wanted a diagnosis on it, I had to be so skinny that they would place me in their care at a local treatment center and I would have to be there for weeks until I gained. I cheated when they weighed me 😛

  11. AGHHHHHH I absolutely hate being weight restored but still having the same thoughts. People think that since the outside is better, the inside is too, but really, being weight restored is harder than not being restored.

  12. Awe I miss these days, when Kati posted these types of videos! I mean I still like Kati Morton, she is so AWESOME, but it just felt more personal for me anyway. It really felt like she was talking to us and not just another face on the internet!  Like I say, I still like her, I just missed these days when I felt closer to her, and I waited and had to watch  every signal video of hers. I understand totally why she moved to 2 days a week, but I wish she still had 1 day out of the 2 where she did this type of video instead! It felt like she was a friend and connecting with us by answering our questions! It made me feel very close to her.

  13. My psychiatrist said I don't have an eating disorder because I'm a healthy weight and I'm in recovery (my restricting and binging are mostly very minimal now – after lots of effort and work). Is she right or should I ask for a second opinion? She told me that I have eating disorder "traits". I also have Borderline Personality Disorder.

  14. Very important topic! I was normal weight even while I had bulimia so I definitely was disordered and needed recovery. I remember thinking "maybe im not sick enough to need recovery" but im glad i realised i was and go out of this hell! love your videos!

  15. i was had anorexia but when i know about bmi for healthy weight so… i deal with myself and now my bmi index 19.75😀😊 .. 1 year ago my bmi index was 16.60 so thin.. now i have to control everything😊😊😊😊

  16. Kati, I often restrict & normally eat one meal a day. Other days, even though I don't want to eat, I do if there's people around at meal times. I don't purge & I rarely binge. I have also maintained a healthy weight. I believe that this means I have an ED, but I don't want to self-diagnose & I couldn't tell if it was some form of anorexia or EDNOS. I was wondering if you would be able to help me understand what I have, if I even have anything at all.

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