Eating Disorders & Men – Eating Disorder Video #37 | Kati Morton
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Eating Disorders & Men – Eating Disorder Video #37 | Kati Morton

August 22, 2019

(lighthearted piano music) – Hi there, thank you so
much for checking back. Now this week’s video is something that I have heard from a lot of you, some of my subscribers,
as well as on Twitter, who either have a friend or you yourself are suffering from an eating
disorder and you’re a man. Now I know that a lot of us are thinking “yeah, I knew that guys
had eating disorders,” but it’s something that
I wanted to address because to be honest, the
symptoms can be different. There’s a lot more stigma
and different stereotypes that come along with a guy
having an eating disorder. And I just want to make
sure that I’m addressing all eating disorders, that
nobody’s being left out, and I also welcome comments and questions and things you want me to address because this is just
going to blah-blah … Sorry, this is just going
to kind of be an overview of what an eating disorder
looks like in a man and how it’s different from in women. Now the first thing is that
a lot of people will assume that a guy with an eating
disorder is homosexual. Now I know that in the
homosexual community, that eating disorders are
more prevalent in men, but not all eating disorders in men are from homosexual men, so that’s a stigma in and of itself. I heard from a lot of you guys out there that people will assume that you’re gay just because you have an eating disorder, and one has nothing to
do with the other, right? And that’s really frustrating. I find that very frustrating
from a therapeutic side because it’s even harder then
for you to even talk about it because if you tell somebody,
then they might assume something completely
separate about your life than what’s really going on in
your eating disorder, right? Now the way that it kind of
differs from men to women is that men usually have
an exercise problem. That’s not saying all of you do, but a lot of guys tend to
focus on over-exercising, compulsive exercise and
usually a lot of the research, and like I said, these
are all generalizations, this is just an overview, but
a lot of the research says that men with eating disorders usually want to excel at a
sport or they tried out, let’s say maybe you
tried out in high school or middle school and you
didn’t make the team, and you’re working really
hard to make the team or to prove that you are good enough for however you’re making
it work in your brain, were trying to be really good at a sport and so that’s why men usually
tend to over-exercise. And another thing that’s very
different from men and women is that women usually have
a certain type of person that we see, whether
it’s in the media, on TV, when we’re walking down
the street, whatever, a lot of eating disorder
women think thin is better, “I wanna be really skinny,”
that’s kind of the way that a woman tends to focus
on her eating disorder, and like I said, I’m generalizing, but a guy doesn’t have a set
way that they want to look. Some people might want to be a thinner guy like a Mick Jagger or something, you know, or somebody might wanna be bulked up like Arnold Schwarzenegger, or more like a David Beckham, or … I mean there’s all sorts of types of men and women find all
sorts of different types of men attractive and in
magazines there’s all sorts of different types of men, and they even banned having
too skinny of male models walking the runway, which is great, but why haven’t they done it for women? That just really pisses me off, but anyway, so that
can be really difficult because your symptoms would be different if you’re trying to look
like Arnold Schwarzenegger or if you’re trying to like Mick Jagger, those are two totally
different body types. And that’s why a lot of men with eating disorders go undiagnosed. To be honest, to me, that’s really sad that as a therapist and as a community of eating disorder professionals that we’re not able to properly help you. So, I apologize for the fact
that it goes unrecognized. One of the studies that I quote a lot when I’m reaching out to other people and talking about eating disorders is that over eight million
people in the United States suffer from eating
disorders, and of those, seven million are women, okay? But that leaves a million guys having trouble with an eating disorder and it goes undiagnosed,
and you know, unrecognized and you’re afraid to talk about it because the stigma is even bigger, right? So I encourage you, talk about it, let us know how it is,
let us know what goes on, let us know if you found a professional that’s really helpful. If you have anything that we can use and we can share because I’m sure many of us have known someone who has had an eating disorder, or we’ve thought they might have an issue with over-exercise and this can be great information to help share, and let’s break through the stigma. Everybody is different. Women, men, every eating
disorder is different. Why should one go
untreated while the other is more widely talked about? That doesn’t make any sense to me, so let’s keep talking about it. And I did look up some so … Excuse me while I go look something up. I have a list of different
programs that take men because unfortunately, I have worked at three, four different treatment centers and none of them accepted men. That was something that
was really frustrating. I had one guy that I did
see on the outpatient level, but to be in groups and
stuff wasn’t accepted. So there are a couple of centers that do focus on men with
eating disorders and they are Rogers Memorial Hospital in Wyoming, River Oaks Hospital in
New Orleans, Louisiana, Eating Disorder Program at the University of Iowa in Iowa City, The Center for Eating
Disorders at Sheppard Pratt, and that’s a great program,
I’ve had a few women come from there as well because
they do have a woman program but they also have a men’s program, and that’s in Baltimore. And they have Red Stone
in Remuda Ranch for boys, so that’s more like
adolescents and everything, but I know Remuda Ranch
also has a woman’s program. So those are just some resources. Help spread the word, let people know there is treatment available out there and you don’t have to suffer in silence. We’re all working together,
this is a community. This is something that we all can help support each other on, right? So let’s break through the stigmas, let’s keep spreading the word, retweet this video so people will know, share it, post, like it, whatever, so that we let people know that just because you’re a man doesn’t mean that you can’t have an eating disorder, and it also doesn’t mean
that you’re gay, right? It’s a totally separate issue. And don’t forget to check out my website. I have a free workbook on there and it’s not gender specific in any way. You can click on the little
tab that says Workbook and you can download it from there, and it has some videos and information that can be really helpful. And let’s keep working together right? No one’s alone, we’re all in this together as you work towards a Healthy Mind and a Healthy Body.

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  1. When I was at my worst, I was trying to get my body like christian bale's from a movie I saw him in. American Psycho. He had an incredible physique and I wanted to mimic him. I would spend 4-5 hours in the gym every day, while sabotaging myself with binging. It's true that we (men) will idolize someones physique and try to attain it. I went through a period as a teenager where I wanted to be very thin like a lot of rockstars were, and that's when I was restricting heavily.

  2. Kati, I love your videos. I was wondering, could you address the different problems that occur when living alone vs. living with others and trying to deal with your ED?

  3. What about males with gender disphoria who see themselves as a female or a person born as both sexes that has an eating disorder? where can they get the help if they do the female verison since they see themselves as female or born with both sexes and had a twin sister?

  4. after seeing this video I wanted to recommend Simon Metin's channel. He is a male who has recovered from an eating disorder and was part of the "I'm a Boy Anorexic" documentary. I found his point of view really interesting, and regardless of whether you are a man or woman he has some really great advice. I hope this is helpful!

  5. I am a man with binge eating disorder and it is so refreshing to see that someone is dealing with the issue of non homosexual men dealing with eating disorders. I have found it difficult to find any information on binge eating disorder in men and even if I have it talks about homosexuality. Hopefully I can get my version of my story out there and help other guys in my situation but seeing videos such as yours is such an inspiration to get things moving!

  6. I hear you buddy. There is no where I can turn. I talk about it with friends but I joke about it more than talk about seriously. I cant get help because of what I do in my job and the stigma for things is really high, but if you would like to talk I am always available on email [email protected] I can be someone to talk to if you want to

  7. There is also a clinic in St. Louis Park, Minnesota. It's near Minneapolis, I myself went there. They accept men and women, adolescents and adults. It's a very good inpatient or outpatient facility. I was diagnosed with an ednos, and I had been suffering for 4 years. I am now recovered and doing better than I ever have.

  8. There is also a clinic in St. Louis Park, Minnesota. It's near Minneapolis, I myself went there. They accept men and women, adolescents and adults. It's a very good inpatient or outpatient facility. I was diagnosed with an ednos, and I had been suffering for 4 years. I am now recovered and doing better than I ever have. The name of the clinic is Park Nicolette Melrose

  9. Hi, thanks for this video! I am a heterosexual male, and I actually do have an ED. Mine is binge eating. It started in my childhood. After my mother's death, I just turned to food for a comfort fix. I just love to eat, but I would consume excessive amounts of food at a time. I still struggle with it. I don't feel shame or guilt after a binge, more a feeling of comfort. But I do know its bad for me.

  10. Also, I believe that regular men want to look better. I don't think its as bad as it is for women or the gays. But I want to look better, most definitely. I think I want to look muscular and strong and fairly lean. Not skinny, though. A lot of people have actually told me I have a handsome face, if only I weren't so fat. Everyone wants to look better. Most men want to look like John Cena or some of the bodybuilders. I just want to be normal , that's all.

  11. i dont understand it either why is only one type of body for women promoted in the media….there are millions of men in the world and we all like some thing different i personally prefer a bit of curviness/plumpness to a woman it gives a woman figure like  an hour glass….kinda like marilyn monroe

  12. I am a homosexual guy with an ED. I know straight guys with EDs and they get called really bad names because of their ED. Steriotypes are terrible.

    I fit into many steriotypes, though. I have been called a "Walking steriotype" before. I also have anxiety disorder and OCD.

  13. I know this is old but I just came home from the IP/Residential (there's really no difference but the price tag; we're all mixed together) program at Eating Recovery Center in Denver, CO which, obviously as I'm male, takes men. What I liked about it (I don't have anything to compare to as that is the only IP treatment I've ever been in) was that the males and females were mixed together (obviously not roommates, but in groups and meals and stuff) so everything wasn't completely divided. I don't have a lot of things in common with the body-building type ED'd male that you seemed to focus on; I don't exercise much (am disabled) am and anorexic purging subtype and have been for 14 years. They also have a terrific step-down PHP program that I didn't participate in because of my insurance but they also accept males and most people at ERC step down to it. They have apartments for out of town people.

  14. @PrincessKLS Speaking from experience, there are incredibly high pressures in the gay community to look certain ways. Whether that is bulky, slim, skinny, or toned. I can't say exactly why that is, but what I can think of in my case at least is that we don't have enough solid gay role models who guide us through the important pubescent phase of developing self esteem and a sense of who we are. So our looks become our only identity. I was at The Moore Center for Eating Disorders in Bellevue, WA (im from seattle) completing their program after 10 months, that was 2 years ago and i still struggle today, so I do have insight on what I am sharing about.

  15. Hi, I had an eating disorder this past year where I overexercised. I've only told my parents and my doctor and some friends…I never got treated…today I am physically Better but not mentally better..I still chew and spit..should I ask my parents to get me help?

  16. Eating Disorders in men isn't just limited to anorexia or bulimia. I for one am a binge eater and we're just as overlooked.

  17. Hey @KatiMorton can u give us other advices on how to deal with the mental illnesses / eating disorder when the time is right? #KatiFAQ

  18. My experience is not an upper. As a 55yrs old and male, I'm tagged for anorexia. In other words, I've lived with this illness since the age of 9yrs old. I live with a couple of other mental illnesses as well but this one (anorexia)is really been tough to manage. It seems to go in and out of remission. I just lost 60+lbs. in a short time but now I've regained some of that back-it ebbs and flows….
    My advice
    Seek help early
    It's been proven that the earlier you start to mend your brain, the quicker you can achieve recovery.
    I didn't quite make it in time but I'm still here to tell a story of hope…
    Hope that someday, eating disorders will be treated as seriously as any other mental illness and more effective treatments will be forthcoming

  19. I am really worried it will come back to hurt me again. My body is better now but i fear it is my mind that has not recovered.

  20. Being a transman and having an eating disorder before and after I was coming out. Before it was trying to be at small as possible. Now it is all focused on getting as big as possible

  21. I have a extreme exericise addiction I have been hiding for years it's hard for men to talk about it because people will think your weird especially family exericise bulima is a nightmare I am very thin but still count calories and exericise 4 to 5 hours a day and trying to fight hunger constantly. People think it can be turned off but it can't.

  22. I am 15 years , I be been anorexic for 2 years , and been recovering for 5 months the main changement’ll be on your abdominal muscles , you » will get watery , and a constant yellowish look ,

  23. Hello Katie 🙂 I just started following your channel and I do want to say you make good points and because I am a transgender male, I didn't feel like I should go seek professional help of some sort because I still saw it as "oh if it is a woman's' disease, I can't go get help" of course 12 years later with my eating disorder I finally accepted that I can't do this on my own, and I need a higher level of care. I am nervous and excited for partial hospital program here in Albuquerque and I will be the only male in treatment at the moment, with 6 women. What should I really expect from PHP? Thank you for your time. -Coyote

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